I read an interview with Dwayne Johnson in which he said that one of his biggest goals was to play professional football. After high school, he played college ball for the Miami Hurricanes as a walk-on, and had some standout potential, but was plagued by injuries and in the shadow of a truly great player all four years.
When he graduated no major league team would draft him.He got to play for two months on a Canadian minor league team and then was cut loose.He was devastated and arrived at his parents house with seven dollars to his name, trying to make sense of what to do with the rest of his life.
He had to re-invent himself into something else, so he became”The Rock,” one of the most successful pro wrestlers in history. This platform game him a chance to reinvent himself further as an actor and movie star.
Now he is Hollywood’s highest paid male actor and his company, Seven Bucks Productions, is very successful. His summing up of his life story and breakaway from the failure of football in just a couple of sentences?
“I was in the wrong game. Now I am in the right game.”
How many times are we in the wrong game, but we just keep banging our head against the ground and racking up failures until we wish we could just die? It is not because we are not great at we do…
We are playing the wrong game, with the wrong set of rules.
We must be in the right game if we want to excel and reach our fullest potential. This is not rocket science, but rather the most elementary truth about who we are: We are unique, and what worked for our best friend, father, mother, or the dude on the TV is not going to work for us!
We have to match our skill set, aspirations, passions, and drive to succeed with the infinite possibilities that lie in front of us. We have all heard the saying, “Don’t try to fit a square peg into a round hole,” right? It means that if you try you will either ruin the peg or the hole, but a beautiful, useful, and harmonious outcome will not you have (I watched Star Wars and listened to Yoda a bit too much…what an example he is of being focused on the right game!)
What happens if we apply the right tools and techniques to the properly designed problem (game) with passion and enthusiasm? We then are creating works of art in an organic and joyful process. Better yet, we no longer look and feel like a mangled square peg stuffed into a round hole!
Now, before we walk any father down this path together I want to tell you that I empathize with any feelings of despair or disbelief that you might be having about being able to get into the right game. I have spent literally decades trying to force myself into the round hole, so that I could please others and do what I “Should” be doing and finally be “Good Enough!!!”
It never worked…we will never be good enough if we judge our worth by someone else’s standards.
That part of my life really sucked….and the worst part is that I chose it because of the choices I made about what I believed about myself and my abilities. Please learn from my pain and choose more wisely by using the following four truths/tools to frame your search for the game that is right for you.
Truth #1: You are the only one who can make you happy, so you are the only one able to choose the right game for you. I know this sounds soooooooo obvious, and it also very rare for us to actually do. We are taught that there is something almost sociopathic about doing what we want without considering how it might affect others, and it is true that we do not want to physically harm other people…but it is okay if they do not like what we choose.
You have complete power and control over your emotions and your choices. It is called agency. So do they. It is a form of manipulation and coercion for a person to say, “I won’t be happy unless you have this type of car, work at this type of job, and act this certain way!” It is not right for you to do that to others, and it takes a lot of willpower to keep others from trying to do it to you.
Truth #2 You must put in the time to define what you really want to achieve. Everything is created mentally before it is actualized in the real world. and before you think “things just happen”…think again:-) Our subconscious is much more powerful and on the ball than conscious mind, so we inadvertently create things subconsciously that conflict with our conscious desires. We are truly our own best friend and worst enemy when it comes to creating our best life. The simple trick here (not easy, just simple) is to be mindful and present at the wheel, focusing on the burning passion to answer the questions three: Who am I, What do I really want out of life, and what price am I willing to pay to get from here to there? If you cannot answer these three questions with conviction and enthusiasm, stop right where you are and fill in the blanks… otherwise you are like a leaf in the wind and any old puddle will do to land in.
Pay the price to know yourself. It will be the most valuable thing you ever do for yourself.
Truth #3 Then you have to put your game face on and play like your life depended on it…, because it does! Live with abandon and love what you do! I say it again-LOVE WHAT YOU DO!! Its your life and you only get one of them, so make it memorable and tailored just perfectly to you. That is the only way possible to have the intrinsic motivation to push through all the tests and trials that life will throw in your path.Your work must be your play, what you would do even if you wasn’t getting paid for it. Only then will you create masterpieces that others will bid highly to possess.
Be the master craftsman of your life.
Truth #4 Never give up. Until the day you die, thee is always new wonders, more challenges, and something more to strive for. Check out this video of the life of Harland Sanders, founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken.
It is never too late to start living with passion.
Cherish this moment, embrace it, and life it fully.
Then do it again and again! A wonderful life really is that simple:-)